IMAGINE CONDUCTING this experiment. Put five monkeys in a cage with a bunch of bananas hanging from the ceiling. Underneath the bananas, place a ladder just tall enough to reach them. Then any time one of the monkeys tries to climb the ladder, spray the entire cage with cold water. Quickly, the monkeys will learn to avoid the ladder and abandon their quest for the bananas.
Someone somewhere once said, "Honesty is always the best policy." Really? Have you ever thought through the implications of that statement?
Ever had a person say something to you that was hurtful, unkind, or offensive? You ask them why they would say something like that, and they answer, "I'm just being honest!" You probably want to respond, "Well, lie a little!"